Originally Posted by BigSwede
I agree with you for the most part. My Home Depot reference is ther because we wouldn't hear about any of this had he not been a military servicemember. If he was Joe Bagodonuts that worked at home depot, noone would even think to go to his boss. People suggesting throwing him under the bus with his CO or TOP is bs without knowing the full situation. If he worked for me, I'd make sure he was protected before I drove over him for a lack of spousal support. In my case, my ex tried to claim spousal abuse and the fact that I wasnt taking care of my son. I was able to show check stubs for support to my son and luckily both my CO and Shirt knew I was never capable of abuse. They basically told her to have a nice day. He was employed, so I owed her nothing. What I did owe was for my sons well being.
Swede, I think we weren't on quite the same page there, it's a little bit clearer (word?) to me now. I was saying that his spouse should go talk to his 1SG or CO. I didn't mean one of his fellow soldiers should go rat him out for that. That's a big no-no. But if his wife is an innocent victim in all of this, which nobody truly knows except her and her husband, then SHE needs to bring it to their attention, because it's a shame that someone could do that to their husband or wife. On the other hand, if she is NOT innocent in this (which I'm not implying), that will all come out too. That's the beauty of communication, JB (Joe Bagodonuts) will have a chance to explain his side of the story, and if she is wrong, that is when he can show this. The abuse thing is ridiculous, my ex tried to say I abused her and didn't support her either. I had proof as well, and the same thing happened.